This morning I was in a meeting and my mife offered to get my morning smoothie for me and I had an old cup of coffee on my desk and when she gave me the smoothie....guess what I did????

I handed her the dirty coffee cup without even thinking or asking or connecting....guess what she did?

She said....I am not your maid....ouch!!! She was right....I was in a zone and treated her in a way that was warm, connecting or showing value or respect.

Have any you done something like this? Here are some steps I took:

1. Redo - I looked at her, appreciated her for giving me a smoothie and asked if she would be willing to take my cup, but that I would take it if she didn't want to

2. Repair - Apologize....let her know what I really thought....did not give excuses and brought warmth into the relationship

3. Move forward - if it was more important to her or if she had more feelings about the incident...she knows she has the ability to reach out to me and express her concerns, frustrations, and desires.

Our goal is to reconnect without compromising who we want to show up as.

Simon Mittal